Well-known and celebrity Nigerian blogger, Linda Ikeji has finally opened up plus cleared the air on all the techniques surrounding the birth of her kid and her supposed baby dad.
Two days before our 38th birthday on September seventeenth, I welcomed my first kid, my son, Jayce. I take a look at him and I wonder why I actually waited so long to have a child. I’ ve never known love such as this. I literally have tears inside my eyes every time I look at your pet. I can’ t believe this individual came out of me. He is by far the greatest blessing and I’ mirielle looking forward to navigating him through existence!
Today to the reason why you are reading this. I contended with myself for a long time whether to place this out or not… and lastly decided it was a story I wanted to talk about. I’ ve always been open regarding my life but I’ m expressing details about my personal life mostly due to the girls who look up to me. Girls I have mentored, mentoring right now plus plan to mentor in the future. I’ mirielle very particular about our girls and I have personally tried through the years to be an example in some way; tried to train these girls how to fight for their own dreams, how to live right is to do right and then I go and also have a child out of wedlock and that should be a little confusing to some of them and particularly with so many untruthful stuff out there regarding me
The most hilarious is that I had children for a married man. Lol. Here’ s my answer to that! The particular married man that I will rest with has not yet been delivered. If he’ s been created, he will die, be buried, increase and die again before he can lay with me. I don’ big t do married men. The father associated with my child is a single guy and his name is Sholaye Jeremi. To be honest, at some point I thought he has been my final bus stop however, you know how life happens… lol. However he and I are a completely shut chapter. Sadly for our son Jayce, it’ s the kind of chapter that will can’ t ever be opened up again.
One of the things many people have asked myself is how I met this guy because we don’ t operate in the same circle. Well, I actually met him 3 years ago in Wheatbaker Restaurant in Ikoyi keep away from 2015 shortly after I moved to our home in Banana Island, Ikoyi. It was a day after Christmas and am was having dinner with buddies when he walked in. He or she saw me and the rest is definitely history. He claimed at the time which he had never heard of me that was seriously a turn-on for me mainly because up until then I’ d just been meeting men who socialized like fans. At the time we fulfilled, I was 35 and he was thirty seven and I’ d been individual for nearly 4 years. I was certainly searching and I fell in like almost immediately and so we grew to become an item.
At the time I met him this individual lived in a 3-bedroom flat with what used to be 5th roundabout within Lekki after Mobil. I used to generate for almost two hours in visitors from my house to go see your pet. Most of the time, I carried my notebook to his home to enable me personally to work and at the same time spend the entire day with him.
It was a whirlwind love. He was the funniest and most intimate guy I’ d met until that point, so it was easy to along with love and I truly believed the sensation was mutual. A few weeks after we all met, it seemed like we were planning for a future together. This man had been calling me Linda Ikeji Jeremi and making all these plans however just like that, it was over among us. I went from getting up every morning to love text messages through him to no more calls.
I was simply thanking God for finally delivering me my own man when instantly we were no longer talking to each other. Afterwards he would tell me what scared your pet off. My public life. States he’ s a private business guy and didn’ t want the interest being with me would bring to your pet and I told him I realized and we went our separate methods. We tried to get back together in 2016 but it didn’ t work out my numbers were so high we separated again but remained in touch (mostly him to be honest), stayed friends and that was just how our back and forth started.
By mid-2017, i was both still single and we began seeing each other again quietly. There have been times it was very intense and talked about a future together, and there was times that I couldn’ t find out what exactly I was doing with this man. We were not suited for each other. Completely different lifestyles. And there was the problem associated with my fame. I walked far from this man a million times and came after me a million then one times. No matter how much I pressed him away, he kept returning and me, because I couldn’ t find anyone else, I held going back. Lol. So I was generally going back to my ex because We couldn’ t find anyone else. *sigh*.
I then fell pregnant. It wasn’ big t planned, it just happened; although we talked about having a child collectively just two months before I dropped pregnant. He said something regarding putting a billionaire baby within me and I remember jokingly informing him that I’ m the billionaire so our child would definitely be a billionaire on both side… and laughed. But after I fell expecting, things became extremely weird in between us. If I tried to explain so what happened, I wouldn’ t be able to since it was confusing to me.
We went through talking about the pregnancy and getting okay with it; he even recommended I go to Dubai for our pre-natals as he didn’ t believe in doctors in Nigeria, to actually not talking to each other anymore. About when I was about three months pregnant, this individual did come to see my parents and also became very cool with my dad. These were literally exchanging Whatsapp messages each day. He later agreed to a traditional wedding ceremony which he didn’ t follow-through and then he switched. He began to deal with me with so much hate plus aggression that I and my family needed to cut him off completely.
To be honest when anybody had told me when we fulfilled three years ago, considering how significantly we cared for each other that I would certainly fall pregnant two years later and would completely turn his back again on me for most part of the pregnancy, I never would have considered it but that’ s so what happened. I had to draw strength through myself, my family and close friends.
And Jayce… oh my son Jayce, he or she was my biggest strength. It had been almost as if he knew their dad was acting up therefore he came through for their mum. He was gentle beside me when I was carrying him. I put an extremely easy pregnancy. I forced him out under 3 minutes and was in the labour area for less than 30 minutes. And then my snapback was amazing. Three weeks later on, it was almost as if I was been pregnant. Jayce has been my soldier when his father turned his back.
But still, I have simply no iota of regret meeting Sholaye. Gosh, have you seen Jayce? How do i regret that? God doesn’t make mistakes. If you believe that you’ lso are always led by God such as I believe then I have to believe that Lord led me to this man designed for whatever reasons best known to Your pet. I thought God sent him since my life partner but I guess This individual just used him as a boat for my greatest blessing. Right now his part in my story has ended. I know when to put my fingers up and surrender.
That God delivered someone significant into your life doesn’ t mean they are supposed to stick to you throughout your life’ s i9000 journey. We should learn to know whenever people’ s part in our tale is over. Don’ t fight for drawing a line under, don’ t ask for explanations, don’ t chase answers, just allow them to go and know that if Lord meant for you to have them in your life, He'd have given them to you. Occasionally people just come to serve an objective in your life and are not meant to remain and there’ s no stage holding on to them. This one is done plus dusted. It’ s just Jayce and I now moving forward and I understand life will be beautiful for us.
Being an one mum wasn’ t the wish I had for myself; I’ g prayed for the kind of happy house my parents built for us (they’ ve been together for 40 years). Nothing is more important to me than household. For years I’ d hammered about how much I was looking forward to getting married, getting children and building my own along with I believed God was going to arrive through for me on that one, yet I have come to understand that we have simply no control over what life throws on us no matter how much we program, pray, or work. And we also provide no control over the actions of others towards us.
One of the things I have learnt within my life’ s journey is that your concept of how life should go might be totally different from the way life actually goes. It’ s called Life Happening. This unfolds into something we by no means dreamed of but because we don’ t recognize the route we find ourself on our journey through life, doesn’ t mean God won’ to get us to our destination. Keep in mind, an uncertain chapter doesn’ to ruin the whole book. Life may happen whether we are ready or not. All of the we can do is keep the heads up and keep moving.
Family and good friends told me I owed no one any kind of explanation about the circumstances that resulted in the birth of my son, yet I knew without writing this particular, I could never stand in front of the girls who look up to me and speak with them again. I could never carry on my secondary school tour plus speak with these girls again regarding living right and doing correct. I would always feel like I have simply no moral right to do so. I visited 15 secondary schools in 2017 and talking to those young impressionable girls has been one of the highlights associated with my life. I cancelled this year’ s tour because I was pregnant and I haven’ t made any preparations for next year’ s tour because I needed to set things right first.
I have a lot of plans for young girls next year and the coming years with the Selfmade finance and mentorship projects along with international collaborations, so this was essential for me to do, to explain myself towards the young girls who look up to me plus feel disappointed that I got expecting and had a baby out of wedlock. For a long time, I have preached decency, morality plus uprightness and despite what happened in my experience, I mean it from the bottom associated with my heart. That should be the only way to reside. That’ s the only way I reside. Don’ t ever compromise your own values. With this, I was led simply by my heart and my time clock ticking and even though I have no misgivings, I’ m sorry if I allow any of you ladies down from the decision I made, and I wish you learn from my experience. I really hope you do better than I did.
The ideal thing will be to find a man you love, who enjoys you back and gives you stability, marry, have kids and raise children, not being a single mum or perhaps a baby mama. I was 37 years of age at the time I conceived and if I wish to be honest, my age performed a role in me allowing personally to be pregnant out of wedlock. I actually don’ t want to be having children in my 40s or struggling with male fertility later in life. This wasn’ t the master plan but like I said just before, life happens. You just have to discover a way to make the best of what life tosses at you. And so for any younger girl this means anything to, I am really sorry. I am not sorry I had developed Jayce, I’ m just remorseful I didn’ t go about this the right way.
But you know, despite this crazy enjoy experience, I still believe in really like and I believe in happy endings and am can’ t wait to one time, God willing, have my mythic ending. The father of my kid is the only man I’ ve given a chance to in 6 years. Rofl. I swear. I’ m not much of a relationship kind of girl. I’ mirielle more a career girl. I can opt for years without a man. I’ meters one of those women who don’t need a man to validate their particular existence but biko, I’ ve done the single life sufficient in the past… lol… going forward I’ m looking forward to giving someone else an opportunity and try this love thing once again. I was raised in a happy 2-parents’ home and that’ s the things i want for Jayce. So I wish I meet a great guy shortly until then I’ m experiencing motherhood. It rocks! Life is never more beautiful!
I’ d also like to deal with a few other issues. Number one is this celibacy issue. So many people have trolled me personally over it and I’ d want to correct the misunderstanding. I have never in my life said people shouldn’ t have sex before marriage. NEVER have I said that. I have also argued with quite a few people that it is far from feasible in this day and age. What I possess always said and I maintain until today is; Do not ever sleep along with men for money because any lady with a brain and determination could get her own money herself. And there’ s nothing sweeter than your own personal money. I am 38 years old and am recently bought a N100million+ car; the actual heck do you need to be sleeping having a man for? For designer bags, 1st class tickets and luxury holidays? GTFOH with sleeping with a man regarding rent money! You can give your self all that and more if you apply your self, fight for your dream and work the couch off.
Men don’ t have the exceptional right to create wealth; women can also build a fortune. Money is not male. Wealth is not really male. Success is not male. All of us women just need to believe in ourselves the get off our butts and stop counting on our looks and charm rather than our brain, mind, will, plus our God given talent/gift. We are able to be rich, we can be successful, we are able to break barriers, do what was previously termed impossible, do what males can do, be CEOs of conglomerates and billionaires without ever needing to lie on our backs. Please girls, we are powerful beyond measure and may do anything and be anything we would like to be.
The other thing I’ ve usually said is; do not sleep about with multiple men who simply use your body for their pleasure; which is; too many one night stands, informal sex, many sex partners in the short period of time all in the name of romantic relationships. Your body deserves better. I feel sexual intercourse should only happen when you’ re in a loving, committed partnership with someone you love. I was celibate for many years until I met the son’ s father and dropped in love. And instead of escalating my body count, I just went back towards the same eggplant… lol. My error was I should have walked aside when the relationship became a waste… lol… but then again, Jayce wouldn’ capital t be here today if I had. Therefore really, there’ s nothing which i have preached that I didn’ capital t practice. So you guys stop trolling me over this abeg! Rofl.
Thanks to reading and thank you for your understanding.
Love plus kisses to you and yours